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Make things better by making better things.
We like to believe—or at least tell ourselves—that the choices we make shape our circumstances. If you make enough good choices over a long period of time, the story goes, you stack the odds in your favor for better outcomes.
But when the winds shift, we often look for someone or something to blame. We put ourselves in the role of judge—of other people and of the world around us. Over time, this can become a habit. And pretty soon, we turn that same criticism toward ourselves, too. We start thinking we don’t belong either.
The question becomes: who does, then?
The world is unfair. It is full of injustice. Whether it’s a decision we made—or a decision someone else made for us—no matter how quickly we want to attach our stories of effort or luck, we do ourselves a disservice when we stop being curious about the world and the people who occupy it.
Instead of pointing fingers and finding someone to blame, we could ask ourselves:
The world is more complicated than the simple story that our choices create our circumstances. Curiosity cuts through that story and opens doors of possibility. When curiosity becomes a habit, it pulls us toward solutions—not just choices, not just circumstances, but the attitude we bring to the table.
A habit of judgment does the opposite. It keeps us stuck inside the very circumstances we wish would change.