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Make things better by making better things.
This is a difficult skill to master but nonetheless, a skill that can be worked on and improved.
The first time I hit turbulence on a plane, I gripped the seat armrests focusing all my energy on keeping the plane aloft. (Good thing I was there.) But of course, it didn’t matter how much mental energy I put in, it wasn’t me in control of the plane. There was nothing I could do to improve the situation I was in, I was just a passenger. And so now, when I hit turbulence, I now say to myself, “What a relief that I am not in charge of fixing this.” I sit back in my chair and try to be patient as the disturbance passes.
It’s a practice. If you cannot control the situation, then worrying about it will only make things worse.
When you do spend all your energy on the things you can’t control you have nothing to give on the things you can influence.