The Thermodynamics of Anger

Reactions imply chemicals. They can store energy that combusts, releasing heat quickly. That's anger.

We don't like to think of ourselves as chemicals reacting. But what's interesting about anger is how it can get us moving. But it is a dirty, inefficient fuel.

When anger shows up, it often sacrifices the long-term outcomes for the short-term gratification. Throwing temper tantrums, burning bridges, losing trust, and damaging your reputation all have a cost. Anger converts these into heat. Thermodynamics is clear: you can't un-burn them.

Gratitude, on the other hand, is more useful. Gratitude isn't just another fuel. It's not a reaction at all.

Gratitude is the feeling we get when we observe the world around us. It isn't produced or consumed, it's noticed.

Gratitude is a point of view. Everyone can notice what's broken, but it is a more useful skill to notice the good and have the guts to point it out.